I am sorry the meeting you had in Dubai did not go well. It is hard to learn another culture. Trompenaars argues that we may never truly "get" another's culture [1]. What can we do?
At the Imagine Cup cup competition at Microsoft in 2015, I was interested in a gender violence protection application developed by a team from Dubai. The team leader was a young woman from Syria who now lived in Dubai. When I approached her to ask about their work, I held out my hand without thinking.
She looked at me seriously and said, “we cannot shake hands”.
I apologized, realizing I had crossed a cultural boundary
She then smiled and said, "but we go do this," crossing her arms in front of her and nodding slightly.
I copied her, smiled and nodded in return.
What she taught me was that a difference in our cultural norms did not need to be an obstacle, there was an alternative greeting I could learn. What was needed was a bit of humility and an openness to learn. Business author Tom Peters suggests we approach the situation with "beginner's mind," a time honored Zen principle. And a dash of self-deprecating humor helps
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